Writing about my mom felt downright lousy, but also quite selfish, and even a bit confessional given the traumatic circumstances of her death. Logically I knew that I was entitled to my point of view of her life, her sorrows, and her struggles with addiction and mental illness. But my mother was not around to confirm or deny my side of things, nor could she defend herself, and this brought on a deep sense of guilt about exposing her life for public view.
As I sifted through my notebook, I would stop to collect relevant materials, medical bills, pictures, emails, evidence to back up my version of events, formulating a way to prove a case I was fighting in my head.
I used to fear that my mother's spirit resented my writing about her.
It was scary enough to anger my mom when she was alive. It turned out that fear remained long after her death. I did, however, have a choice in sharing her story with others.
It felt risky, but at least it was a risk I had poured my whole heart into taking, using a skill she had fostered in me and loved about me. Even if the ghost of my mother disagreed with every word I wrote about her, if I produced a strong and meaningful piece of work, there was a chance that she might forgive me.
I had no idea the number of people who would read and listen to her story, which turned out to be in the hundreds of thousands. Each note is different by varying degrees of length, emotion, and formality, but each one carries the same central message, thank you. I respond to all of them, which is a great luxury of being a writer who is neither widely accomplished nor famous.
Last week, on October 23, NPR aired an interview with Khizr Khan, whose son, an army captain, was killed while serving his country in the Iraq war. In the interview, Khan, who is quite famous and widely accomplished was asked how often he thinks about his son now that he is gone. His answer, as I was listening in my car, took my breath away. He told a brief story about his wife, Ghazala. He said:. I see him every day.
I hear him every day. My mom hangs out now in my kitchen. The obvious thing to do is to engage the child in a discussion.
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This may be difficult initially, but it is important to persist and leave the channels of communication open. It could be siblings, members of the extended family, teachers and, to my surprise, domestic helps!
In fact, it may not be that much of a surprise as many helps are actively involved in childcare, especially when their parents are at work. Teachers and paediatricians are often the first port of call for most parents and justifiably, it should be so.
They know the child for longer periods after their immediate family members and can be helpful in clearing the doubts. If, however, there is any doubt or if the concerns persist, it is better to seek professional help at the earliest rather than wait and watch. Help can be sought from psychiatry outpatient departments in government hospitals and many schools have their own network of trusted counsellors and psychiatrists. The key message for all of us is to be aware that children can and do develop mental illnesses.
As an adult, it is obligatory for us to be cognisant of the signs and symptoms of those as we are cognisant of signs and symptoms of physical illnesses. Awareness is the key, the rest automatically follows. Find him on Facebook Jai R Ram. She is a cow aunty, not a gau mata.
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During their stay, the Crain family encounters paranormal occurrences and is forced to flee without Olivia, who dies within the house, traumatising the rest of the family. Years later, Steven used his family's traumatic experiences to write his book, straining the bonds with his siblings.
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Although it became a best-seller, Steven missed most of the frightening experiences and does not actually believe in the paranormal. Theo goes to a bar where she flirts with a woman, Trish, and goes home with her. Steven and Shirley miss calls from Nell, who then calls Hugh and expresses concern for Luke, who has become an addict.
Steven returns home, he sees Luke leaving with equipment stolen from his apartment and when he enters the apartment finds Nell there.
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While talking to her, Steven receives a call from Hugh informing him that Nell went to Hill House and has died. Steven realizes that Nell is a ghost. In childhood flashbacks at Hill House, Shirley encounters a box of kittens located in a hut nearby the mansion, and manages to convince her parents to let her take them inside the house. However, the kittens all end up dying, which deeply affects and disturbs Shirley, who obsesses over why she couldn't fix them. Some time later after she and her family have left Hill House, a funeral is held for Olivia and an initially distraught Shirley is surprised and in awe that the mortician was able to "fix" her mother.
As an adult, Shirley is now a mortician who owns a funeral business alongside her husband, Kevin, and rents a guest house to Theo, who is now a child therapist. Shirley soon gets a call from Steven, who informs her of Nell's death. Distraught and shaken, she requests that Nell's corpse be brought to her and she embalms her sister herself.
However, after completing the embalming, Shirley suffers a scare when she encounters a ghost from her past. Flashbacks reveal that Theo is able to perceive feelings from people and impressions from objects when she touches them with her bare hands. An incident with Luke in the dumbwaiter leads to a secret cellar not mapped in the house's blueprints, where he encounters a ghost that attacks him.
Luke is upset that no one believes him, so Theo investigates and finds a hidden door leading to the basement. Olivia reveals to Theo that her grandmother and by extent, she and her daughters are "sensitive" and gives Theo a pair of gloves to protect her hands. While working as a therapist for children in foster care, Theo comes across a child that she can't "read" and who claims to be tormented by "Mr.
Smiley", a monster that lives in the basement. Theo goes to the house where the little girl lives and discovers the truth of the situation through her touch; the foster dad was molesting the girl and Mr. Smiley was a manifestation of the abuse. Theo contacts the authorities and the foster dad is arrested. Afterward, she goes to the morgue, takes off her gloves and touches Nell's forehead.